leave new york immediately. live in a forest.

This Harvard PhD student I know, Guy, wished me as we left the banya yesterday:

Good luck deciding what you want to do in life.

That pinched my conscious. These days I think about leaving New York. Going somewhere with blooming fields, and sunshine, and trees that don’t look suffocated. Of course, I’ve had periods, multiple periods in my life, when I was dead sure of my aspirations. They all went to shambles, and I’ve not even turned 35 yet.

ImageMy ex used to be pretty harsh with me about this whole reluctancy to stick to my opinions. But now I need — I should learn how to live with this. Maybe if I accept that I will be doubtful, I will be more accepting of my decisions, too.

Maybe all I need is to graduate and be intellectually free. Have my head to myself. What is life like without these chains? Without the constant nagging of self to leave the clouds, the sad insane people, the intellectual torture of college. Is life without these happy? Or does it simply become boring, and you want to be back in New York, in the urban prison? I wonder if it’s actually possible to be in the moment, a unit — a small part of the Appalachian Trail. Can I blend into a pine so that a satellite or a passerby wouldn’t be able to tell my existence as a human?


My dreams of being a minor public school teacher


I daydream about being a person whose name kids don’t remember because of how basic the things I give to them will become.

Sure, it’s great to be the big teacher in people’s lives. Be the 11th grade English teacher who recognized my functional illiteracy and tutored me so well that I ended up majoring in lit and spending all my leisure time reading and writing.
But even more important is the health teacher whose name I don’t remember. The 6th grade health teacher who taught us about the need to shower. Only in sixth grade did I begin to take daily showers. The great part about how bad I imagine I smelled then: I had joined a basketball team in third grade and still didn’t notice that hygiene was part of the deal. No wonder my classmates avoided me on the playground. Health is unglamorous, but way more unglamorous is life without it.

Food, of course, is crucial to health. My family for years did not notice that I couldn’t read or that I didn’t know better than wear the same pair of stockings every morning. So, I understand what it means to grow up in a food desert, constricted to malnutrition because you don’t know that better food is possible.
It’s a childhood in the prison of your educational poverty. You’re a kid. You don’t know better than eat the things you’re fed. When you gain too much weight, your parents tell you to eat less at dinner. “Estas gordo. Come menos frijoles, mi hijo,” I once heard an acquaintance say to her son at dinner. So you go back to school and sneak some more tater tots (chicken nuggets if you’re lucky) from the cafeteria because you know you’ll be hungry at home.

If this doesn’t give you writer’s block, I don’t know what will

I went to the library and looked for advice on making my writing better. Instead, I found Eudora Welty’s brilliant — and terrifying — image of Neanderthal storytelling. If this doesn’t give you writer’s block, I’d like your fearless psyche, please:

“Neanderthal man listened to stories, if one may judge by the shape of his skull. The primitive audience was an audience of shock-heads, gaping around the campfire, fatigued with contending against the mammoth or woolly-rhinoceros, and only kept awake by suspense. What would happen next? The novelist droned on, and as soon as the audience guessed what happened next, they either fell asleep or killed him.”

I am an apprentice writer. Other writers tell me what to do. How to write a short story, the novel and its counterparts, on writing the short story, on writing, the art of fiction, et cetera. Sometimes they are helpful. And other times, they get me wishing that I don’t see any nightmares that night because the only fate worse than being killed for your art is having your audience fall asleep.

The work behind a good sentence

I admire beautiful sentences. They make me jealous. I want to rip sentences from books and let nobody see how much better Margaret Atwood’s are than mine. One thing I’ve done is shorten mine. Hemmingway-style. It’s great. Gets rid of garrulity. Makes me less annoying.

Aside from mere run-ons though, I struggle to explain long ideas. Some sentences are easy to pare down to Subject, verb, whoop you’re done. And then you get sentences that have a Wikipedia inside them. How do you get it all into one readable thing?

The goal today was to write one good sentence.

As my complicated idea, I chose a book with the word “Women” written upside-down on it. “Women” sits on my desk at the agency. The book makes me feel better about myself in times of creative despair.

Here is how I expressed my relationship with “Women” in one sentence, five times over (these are horrible, by the way):

A book about women made Sasha full of self-esteem

  • Woah! Full of self-esteem! Next.

A book about women filled Sasha with the knowledge that she was no different from the artistic people in life

  • Expressing the idea in too many words

The artist’s long hair had as much effect on the artist’s self-esteem as did Sasha’s book on her desk

  • No

Sasha knew that she was no different from the artist she saw every day at work

  • Good sentence, but where did “Women” go?

Sasha knew that the artist’s long hair had as much effect on his self-esteem as the book that she kept under her computer at work had on hers

  • Healthy. But not dazzling.

Fifth attempt, and I was tired of looking at my Women book and at the long-haired artist next to me. I wrote a sentence that just worked and called it quits:

I pity anyone who writes in the wrong genre

Have a great day.

Aim for rejection and land a job as a result

Sometimes we find ourselves looking for a job offer.

If that offer doesn’t come soon enough, we will despair – and end up worse off than we had been in the beginning of our search. Working toward the goal of getting a single acceptance letter is very tiresome.

A great alternative to that daunting goal is reversing the challenge on its head: aim to get 20 rejections.

The logic is simple:

  • Both 1 acceptance and 20 rejections require filing roughly the same number of applications
  • The reverse goal forces us to overcome application block and actually submit 20 applications – which is more than many of us normally file before frustration with the job search kicks in
  • Aiming for 20 rejections removes the pressure of getting accepted by each application. Instead you are assuming the opposite – so any response you get from an employer will be going towards a goal of yours. Great stress reliever.

Note: don’t just apply for anything that will get you a rejection. An important part of this approach to the job search is keeping your applications sincere and relevant to your life goals. Now go out there and get rejected a bunch 😉